Whatever you do, do it well and do it EVERYDAY!
This applies to all aspects of life! Get out of your comfort zone and GROW!
You may be asking yourself, "why is my kid so bratty and whiny? Why the tantrums?"
Maybe you should let them play a little more. With a little less Mom sprinkled in there....
What might happen if we give our children the room to roam and develop without us hovering over their every move?
They might grow. And be confident. Be independent, critical thinkers WHO CAN SOLVE THE WORLD'S PROBLEMS without Mommy watching and telling them how to do it.
Let them climb that tree. (Keep your terrorizing fear to yourself, Mom.)
Let them jump off that rock. (Seeee Mommy! I knew I could do it!!!)
Let them order their own food and speak to the waitress without being corrected. (I'm a big girl Mommy, I did it all by myself!)
Teach them clear boundaries. Let them learn that life isn't easy and we are here to help prepare them every step of the way. Without getting in the way of course.
I wanted to talk about something that's really popular in our society. It's losing weight after having a baby in record time and then posting about it. #shitty #whyareyoustillfat #sixpackbackinweeks #wtf
Don't feel pressure to lose weight right away. We need to take care of ourselves and our new babies and soak in every moment. Do not fall prey to social media pressure to look a certain way in a certain amount of time. Listen to your body!
Here is the stunning Brittany Gori from www.tobcandid.com
Two of my favorite things: Beautiful shiny package from Forever 21, and a totally gorgeous shoot with one of my best subjects! (How pretty was this shoot??!!)
Check out Brittany Gori's blog and stunning website. LOVE HER. Great fashion AND she's due with twins any minute.
Best of luck to her and her cute firefighter hubby!
You can see more of our shoot HERE.
Check out these adorable and affordable sandal options at Forever21.com
As promised, the link to the article I LOVED reading yesterday! Thank you Raymond for sending it. Very enlightening.
Here's a link to the cutest hair accessories EVER. (Also great stuff for future Halloween costumes. I'm pretty much a cat every year so there are some really adorable cat ears.)
Andddddddd last but not least... the book!
I was going to film a video about this, but my camera on my iMac isn't working and honestly I'm not sure I could talk about this on camera.
Something happened at yoga today that has never happened to me. An all encompassing feeling of fear started bubbling up. It was surrounding me like black smoke. I almost broke down in tears. In this moment the things that were coming up were:
What if the kids don't think I'm a good mom?
What if I can't make it in Timeshare? What if I can't sell?
Does he love me? What if I'm not good enough for him?
Am I crazy? Who do I think I am for posting things online like some kind of guru?
Just WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STEPHANIE?
It was an awful deafening sound of SILENCE. Just me and my own thoughts.
Stephanie, what IF you aren't a good Mom? Then what? (Your kids won't love you and appreciate you. You won't feel GOOD ENOUGH.)
Stephanie, what IF you can't make it timeshare? Then what? (I can't provide for my children which will mean I'm not GOOD ENOUGH.)
And MAYBE he doesn't love me. So? And? (You weren't GOOD ENOUGH.)
What did all of these have in common as I was sweating in an inferno room with a bunch of other yogis? All I really wanted to do was crawl into a ball and well, bawl.
They all had something in common. My ultimate fear was rising. My fear that I simply, AM NOT ENOUGH.
THAT I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
Is this rational? No. Does it make sense? Sort of. Remember when I spoke of being vulnerable and how scary it is? I'm being really vulnerable with the people around me. I'm letting it "all hang out." It's scary as FUCK. I'm terrified that with all the energy and the effort I put into this life it still WON'T BE ENOUGH.
What does that really mean? It means I'm HUMAN. God forbid I make mistakes. Where in this life did I decide being human was bad? Where in this life did someone take away my self worth, self esteem? Maybe its a fear that lies in every single one of us and it's not something that was "planted" by anyone.
Let's say I'm not enough for some reason. Let's say I failed at something because I wasn't good enough. Guess what? OH WELL. Shit happens. You live and your learn. I can't be the best at everything and the winner for all contests. It's ok to not be enough sometimes. It's ok if I try and I fail. How can we succeed or fall in love or feel accomplishment without at least trying?
At the end of the day I must remind myself,
I AM ENOUGH.
I AM GOOD ENOUGH.
Even I struggle with my limiting beliefs. And this one my friends, is a big one. I have to dig deep. I know this feeling is fleeting. But instead of burying it or blocking it I'm shouting it out loud.
I AM GOOD AND I LOVE MYSELF AND I DO MY BEST.
Repeat after me.
Life is going to throw you curveballs. Hurt backs, sick kids, sick parents, cancer, migraines, work, you name it.
DON'T GIVE UP.
Oh and I'm still a photographer...... this happened the other day.
This isn't about fitness or food or losing weight.
IT'S ABOUT BEING REAL.
p.s. I say REAL way too many times in this video. Sawwwwrrrrry.
Stay focused by tracking your progress.... IN A BIKINI!!!
From a few years back.......This is an 8 week example of clean eating and lifting. I still ate pizza and beer once a week. :) (But I was also told I was boring because I stopped going out with friends because I didn't want to be tempted by cocktails and bar food hahaha.)
My goals are different now, but this just shows you its fun to track your progress with photos. And since I live in Hawaii it may as well be in a bikini.
Notice the biggest changes were around week 4 and 5. Most people quit around week 3.....
Just in case you were wondering...
People always quit right before they see results... don't be like everyone else. Push thru those feelings of wanting to quit and make it to the next level. YOU CAN DO THIS.
You are what you drink....
Hahaha serious food fail on this fateful day...
I've merged my secret blog with my real blog for ease of use and because I'm simply lazy.
Also, someone asked me if I even work. See video below.
A very important topic that most humans deal with and that is very close to my heart.
I'm still figuring out how to change the thumbnail on these videos...bear with me and my dumb faces.
Stop making excuses and go workout. DO it.
Re-Train your brain!!
Every time I get overwhelmed, sad, or just down in this life, I reach out to help someone else in need.
BE OF SERVICE.
The best way to overcome those feelings is to serve others.
Don't think life is going your way? Feeling like others have "more" than you?
This is a conversation I have to have with the kids a lot.
"Why does so and so have a new truck? Why do they get to go skiing every year?" The list goes on.
One thing I like to remind the kids is, we all have our own story and our own journey. That's just not our story for right now and that's ok. You are your own hero in your own tale.
Go help someone. Get out of your head and get into someone else's. It's amazing what it feels like to give to someone in need. Immediate lifter of spirits! Do it. I dare you!
Recently I volunteered myself and the kids to assist with an amazing program called Skate MD. A non profit skateboard clinic to help special needs children learn to skate. The kids complained the entire morning leading up to it. Rain or shine, we showed up and it was amazing.
Well done kids.
Jungle hearts tangled
Love is within us